The Divorce

His parents volunteered to keep an eye on our animals for us until we got settled. We needed to put up a fence for Chelsea, and we needed to keep Buddy inside at least a week to get him used to his surroundings. With us going in and out moving boxes, we were afraid he’d escape.

Then we went to his parents for Thanksgiving. Chuck’s mom's brother and sister-
in-law were there too, but Sharon was nowhere to be found...she, of course, was tucked away in the computer room talking to that Muslim kid, Rassel, while everyone else prepared dinner. When the food was done and the table set, she finally came out wearing a skin-tight tank top, which was two times her size (way too small for her). Now remember, we are in Michigan, it’s cold (usually 30-40 degrees) and snowy by Thanksgiving up here. Also, she was a 54 yr. old woman (she is now 56) trying to look and act like she’s 20-something, and is actually making people wonder if she's in her late 60’s. Not only was her choice of dress tacky, She even looked old. She looked real tired and had more grey hair and wrinkles (it had only been a week)!

As we ate, Sharon kept trying to start an argument w/ the dad, over little knit-picky stuff. Then towards the end of the meal.... a FAMILY Thanksgiving meal mind u...we all heard ‘it, that all too familiar bling-bling from yahoo IM. Sharon, of course, got up from the table and started toward her computer. Dad yelled after her, “Well, could u at least help w/ the dishes?” She replied, “U cooked ‘it that means u clean it!” I had to stuff my face w/ meshed potatoes in order to stifle a laugh. Ever since I met her, she would away say “I cooked u clean!” (Although dad usually made the big stuff for the Sunday family meals...she manly set the table, mashed the taters and nuked the veggies). Her sister-in-law, Joann, followed Sharon to the room, soon afterwards she (Sharon) comes out from the room w/ red eyes and carrying her shoes. She told me to remember to take my cat because she's tired of him, then she left w/ Joann at her heels.

Dad then explained to Chuck, Ken, and I what was going on. Sharon had filed for a divorce. After 32 years of marriage, she decided to end it w/ out a true explanation. One of the reasons I figured is the fact the dad cheated on her 30 some years ago, after a while he thought she had forgiven him, but apparently not. What bothers me is after he cheated, why didn’t she leave? She claims she stayed for her kids. Ok, but her youngest was 18 after her 21 anniv, so why not leave then? Besides (like I told her), if she’d have left the dad when the boys were younger and explained the true reason why, it would have saved them from depression and the confusion and resentment they are suffering from now. But she never did tell anyone the reason she left...even the dad didn’t now why at the time. I soon learned that she'd tell people that didn’t know the whole story to make her look like a victim.